What to do when you have no clue

Hey Everyone,

Welcome back!

This month I wanted to write about something I think we’ve all dealt with or maybe some of us are still dealing with which is how to find your lane in life and what to do when you have no clue about which direction to go in. After having a few conversations with a some friends, this appeared to be a common topic that people are trying to manage. 

Personally, speaking I know exactly how it feels when trying to locate your lane in life especially in a world where everyone’s life on social media looks tremendously amazing. I’ve always loved reading and shortly after a love for writing followed. (I talk about this more on my about me page.) Growing up I played the piano, did martial arts briefly and I’ve always been a chatterbox. I share this all to show that it’s definitely been a process for me, though I do hope that the tips I share in this post can help you get a clue. Hopefully, my tips will help to stimulate your mind in a positive direction. I believe it takes a lot of trial and error and intentionality.

• Step 1 – Silence the noise – it’s hard to navigate your own personal direction when your mind is filled with so much of what others are doing. Consider keeping your life simpler by spending less time on social media and silence anything that distracts your mind. Try and expand your interests beyond everything going on the internet. Come back to reality and in touch with your real life. Silence the noise for clarity, have a detox, give your mind room to breathe.
• Step 2 – Look back at your childhood and teenage years… What was most enjoyable to you and why? Foster all of your interests. Each of us are so unique and have differences that set us apart in a good way. It may not be the coolest thing now but if it brings you joy that is definitely something you should pursue.  
• Step 3 – Get out of your comfort zone – Maybe try one new activity a month to get you out of your comfort zone. I did this in 2019 when I went to one networking event a month for a year. You won’t find your lane just by wishing about it, you have to physically do and try things. Shake up your usual routine. To find your thing… sometimes you have to do a lot of things and maybe they will be outside of your comfort zone. That’s where there is the most growth. 
• Step 4 – Pray, ask God for wisdom – seek him with a genuine faith-filled heart and you will be guided.  James 1:5- 8 states If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do. There’s a reason you are reading this post. Pause for a moment right now and pray.
• Step 5 – Change your perspective and attitude – I mention this in my blog post 15 things we’ve learned so far from being in our 20’s. Your perspective in life and how you view yourself sets the tone for everything. Get rid of the idea that by a certain age you need certain things it just puts unnecessary pressure on yourself. Read books and develop a better attitude. My top two book suggestions for this would be the 4 agreements and the 15 invaluable laws of growth. 

Also, as a bonus tip, I would definitely suggest incorporating reading more books into your lifestyle. It’s a priceless benefit. I have a blog post on this topic here. 

I truly hope after reading this you have more of a clue about what to do. A year from now you’ll be in a better space if you become truly intentional about finding your lane. God makes no mistakes, every single one of us is here for a purpose on purpose. You could possibly also begin asking those closest to you what they think you are amazing at. 

Thank you so much for reading this post.

I wish you all the best as you try these tips.

Till next time xoxo

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